Three Mistakes To Avoid During Times Of Adversity

 Three Mistakes To Avoid During Times Of Adversity


How do you deal with stress, challenges, or adversity?  There is no way we would and could go through life without experiencing adversity. So what do we do? Do we run each time we encounter a difficulty?  Alternatively, do we find a way to cope and to do so positively? Whether the source of our stress results from a relationship, work, social, or environmental issue, life is going to throw us challenges.

Five Things To Consider When Facing Life’s Challenges

Some of the challenges we encounter would be small, whereas some would be of a nature that threaten to overwhelm us and sap the energy out of us. When adversity comes knocking, we need to hold on to a few beliefs that will help sustain us through the process. In this post, I discuss some of the mistakes that people make when experiencing adversity. If you do not feel like reading you can always listen to the video  below for some valuable tips on dealing with adversity.


  1. Trying to Control The Issue

I think by now every adult, with soundness of mind, know that we are not always able to control what happens to us. Sometimes we create our own storms, and sometimes, things happen when someone outside of us failed to take responsibility.

Regardless of the cause of your situation, there is no point trying to control a situation that has gone beyond your control. You will find that the more you fight with the problem is the more pain it causes.

When things are not the way you want, you should be able to decide if it is worth fighting for, holding on, or letting go. I say, if you have done all in your power and the situation has not changed for the better, it is time to try something new. Sometimes, the something new is taking time to reflect, giving the problem a break, or seeking an alternative where possible.

Here’s a beautiful ariticle that suggests ways in whcih you can overcome adversities.

If you cannot change your environment, you can change the way you view adversity. In addition, as you change the way you look at adversity, you will find new ways of dealing with your situation.


  1. Looking at Your Life Based on Your Current Circumstances

Yeah, I know everything seem hopeless right now. You are looking at your circumstances and there seems to be no end in sight. You may have been in the situation for months or even years and nothing seemed to have changed.

Think of your situation as a cloudy sky. Imagine that you woke up one morning to find it was raining and the sky covered with clouds. Nevertheless, as you go through the day, the rain stops and the cloud passes to reveal a beautiful blue sky… this is how life is. This is how your circumstances operate. If you keep the faith long enough and do what you know in our heart to be right, you will make it through whatever adversity you are facing. Moreover, you will grow through your situation.

Is there something in your life that is causing you discomfort? Is there something in your life you know you need to change? Do not wait for things to magically change, instead create a vision of what you want your life to be like and work towards that vision. Always remember, you are more than your circumstances and once you change your mindset, your circumstances will change.

  1. Letting Your Circumstances Dictate How You Treat Others

Sometimes, if we are not careful, periods of adversity can cause us to become bitter. However, you must always be cognizant that there is no room for bitterness if you want a fulfilling life. Besides, bitterness  only adds to your already challenging situation, if you let those feelings consume you.

I have found that whenever I am facing adversity it brings me more peace when I extend a helping hand to someone less fortunate. Always remember, that there are people who are in situations far worse. Today I challenge you to keep your heart soft and in a good place. Practice helping others through your pain. When you focus on helping others, you have less time to dwell on your circumstances. In addition, there is much joy to be experienced from making someone else’s day than sitting at home in the victim mode.

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Five Things To Consider As You Face Life’s Challenges

 Five Things To Consider As You Face Life’s Challenges


As I sat thinking about what I was going to write today, I reflected on these first few months of this year 2017. I reflected on all the that have occurred in my life before the start of this year and then I smiled. It is not that I am not experiencing challenges, I am, but I chose not to focus on the negative aspects. I have chosen instead to look at every small moment of ups that I have experienced. Todays, post is about focusing on the positive things in your life and not the negative. And you can do this is so many ways; below are just some things to consider as you travel the challenging journey call life.

  1. How Do You Generally Look At Your Situation?

Your Situations in Life depends on how you perceive and react to it rather what actually happens to you. When things are going smoothly in our lives, it is quite easy for us to feel as if we are conquerors. And, the feeling is good, because we look at things through rose-colored lenses. However, when life throws us stones and big rocks, this is where the test of your strength comes into play. We have a choice of either keep moving or giving up? Which will it be? Only you can decide.


  1. What Kinds Of Emotions Are Dominant When You Have Challenges?

How do you react when you meet those ups and downs? Do you react in the same way as you would when things are going smoothly? Do you experience negative emotions such as extreme anger, self-pity, self-blame, self-defeat? Do you get impatient at first then quickly realize and change your approach to positive? Or, do you react negatively and continue in that negative mindset, hoping for somet

hing great to happen so you can feel like a conqueror again?


  1. How Can You Get Rid of  Negative Emotions

It is not always easy to feel strong when life feels like it is beating you down. But I am asking you to consider reflection as part of your growth process. The next time something challenging happens to you, I want you to recall this discussion and reflect on your how you feel and react to it. If your response to your challenging situation is to throw in the towel, I want you to catch yourself and halt those feelings that do not serve you well. Make a conscious effort to do so, it may prove very difficult to do but, even if it takes you half an hour or two hours, keep fighting the negative emotions. Let go of the negative emotions: the self-defeating thoughts, and the victim mode. Tell yourself that you are a conqueror regardless of your situation. Follow this link for video and blog with suggestions on how to get rid of a negative habit.


  1. Do You Have A Go To Anchor?

If you have belief in a higher being (in my instance I believe in God) consider prayer. Express gratitude for the good things in your life, even if you feel you have nothing. Remember that you have life and that is the most important gift. Without life there is nothing. Keep that mindset and begin to make a plan for your life. Have the faith that you will be more than just okay. That things will work out for your good and the good of those who you wish to help.


  1. Consider Having A Plan For Your Life.

Having a plan for your life does not mean that things will turn out the way you want them. Having a plan just serves as a road map; you may not necessarily follow the exact path on this map. It prevents you from wandering in life and falling for any and everything that is all around you. The music you listen to, the books you read, the people you dwell among,  can and will affect your life, for better or worse. The plan you have for your life is what will decide your ultimate choices in life.

Let the destination/ goal be something that is beyond the physical and material things in life. Let it be something that is so beautiful that people will see the radiance you give off around you. Let that destination be one that positively affects the life of other humans and not just yourself. For, to seek a solely materialistic destination would not give you such beautiful rewards as one that affects the life of other humans.


  1. Life is Beautiful, Capture The Moments.

Life is not meant to live in fear. However, if you do not handle the challenges wisely you can end up feeling discontented and unhappy. In all that we do, we should strive to capture the beauty in our moments. Although I speak of a destination, I do not mean in a physical sense. I meant, in a sense where the growth that you aspire to is within yourself. To be the best you, which is something that requires we constantly grow. As long as we live we will continue to grow (for better or worst).

If you want to have an idea as how to go about dealing with life’s challenges, I invite you take a look at some of my self-development blogs. You might just find something that helped me and is similar to a situation that you are currently facing. Just click on any of the categories. I have basically been writing about the path I am on and it is my hope that this path will leave a permanent trail for those who wish to find it.

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