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Three Mistakes To Avoid During Times Of Adversity

 Three Mistakes To Avoid During Times Of Adversity

 

How do you deal with stress, challenges, or adversity?  There is no way we would and could go through life without experiencing adversity. So what do we do? Do we run each time we encounter a difficulty?  Alternatively, do we find a way to cope and to do so positively? Whether the source of our stress results from a relationship, work, social, or environmental issue, life is going to throw us challenges.

Five Things To Consider When Facing Life’s Challenges

Some of the challenges we encounter would be small, whereas some would be of a nature that threaten to overwhelm us and sap the energy out of us. When adversity comes knocking, we need to hold on to a few beliefs that will help sustain us through the process. In this post, I discuss some of the mistakes that people make when experiencing adversity. If you do not feel like reading you can always listen to the video  below for some valuable tips on dealing with adversity.

 

  1. Trying to Control The Issue

I think by now every adult, with soundness of mind, know that we are not always able to control what happens to us. Sometimes we create our own storms, and sometimes, things happen when someone outside of us failed to take responsibility.

Regardless of the cause of your situation, there is no point trying to control a situation that has gone beyond your control. You will find that the more you fight with the problem is the more pain it causes.

When things are not the way you want, you should be able to decide if it is worth fighting for, holding on, or letting go. I say, if you have done all in your power and the situation has not changed for the better, it is time to try something new. Sometimes, the something new is taking time to reflect, giving the problem a break, or seeking an alternative where possible.

Here’s a beautiful ariticle that suggests ways in whcih you can overcome adversities.

If you cannot change your environment, you can change the way you view adversity. In addition, as you change the way you look at adversity, you will find new ways of dealing with your situation.

 

  1. Looking at Your Life Based on Your Current Circumstances

Yeah, I know everything seem hopeless right now. You are looking at your circumstances and there seems to be no end in sight. You may have been in the situation for months or even years and nothing seemed to have changed.

Think of your situation as a cloudy sky. Imagine that you woke up one morning to find it was raining and the sky covered with clouds. Nevertheless, as you go through the day, the rain stops and the cloud passes to reveal a beautiful blue sky… this is how life is. This is how your circumstances operate. If you keep the faith long enough and do what you know in our heart to be right, you will make it through whatever adversity you are facing. Moreover, you will grow through your situation.

Is there something in your life that is causing you discomfort? Is there something in your life you know you need to change? Do not wait for things to magically change, instead create a vision of what you want your life to be like and work towards that vision. Always remember, you are more than your circumstances and once you change your mindset, your circumstances will change.

  1. Letting Your Circumstances Dictate How You Treat Others

Sometimes, if we are not careful, periods of adversity can cause us to become bitter. However, you must always be cognizant that there is no room for bitterness if you want a fulfilling life. Besides, bitterness  only adds to your already challenging situation, if you let those feelings consume you.

I have found that whenever I am facing adversity it brings me more peace when I extend a helping hand to someone less fortunate. Always remember, that there are people who are in situations far worse. Today I challenge you to keep your heart soft and in a good place. Practice helping others through your pain. When you focus on helping others, you have less time to dwell on your circumstances. In addition, there is much joy to be experienced from making someone else’s day than sitting at home in the victim mode.

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Four Healthy Ways of Managing Stress

Four Healthy Ways of Managing Stress

There are many ways of managing stress; how do you manage stress? Why is it important for us to manage stress in a healthy way? And, what are some of the things which cause us to feel stressed?
Stress is caused by many external issues. Some of the major triggers of stress today include workplace and job related issues, financial issues, meeting daily basic needs such as buying food, paying rent, or even finding somewhere to live. Then there is also the political stress that some people seem to take on more than others. And, last but not least, relationship problems, whether it is intimate or social. Oh and almost I forget, road rage! Some of us even get stressed by traffic, especially when we are late and don’t want to be later than we already are.

It is important that we manage stress in a healthy manner because stress has been found to be one major causes of many diseases such as high blood pressure, heart disease, cancer, and depression. It has also lead to sad incidences where people committed suicide or attempt to do so. Others chose to engage in chronically harmful behaviors such as medications without a prescription, drinking alcohol, or smoking.

Because stress can lead to such disasters, what matters is how we deal with it. In this posts, I give you four healthy ways of managing stress so that it does not get the better of you.

 

1.     Listen To Something Positive.

One of my favorite ways of managing stress is listening to positive things. For example, up beat music, motivational preaching, or motivational speeches. When we are experiencing stress, our tendency is to dwell on it continually, sometimes to the point of letting the issue consume us.

When you chose to listen to positive  words,  you are introducing a healthy wa

y of distracting your mind and changing your thought pattern. Once we make listening to positive things a part of your daily life, after a while, the positive things will override the negative emotions going through your mind and consequently make you cope and feel better.

2.     Engage in Some Form of  Exercise

For example, walk, jogging, yoga.  Walking and jogging are healthy forms of exercise. A brisk walk or jogging will help you find a medium to vent all that negative energy that you feel when are experiencing stress. Besides, being great for your heart and lungs, exercise tones the muscles and make you feel energetic.

Yoga is a healthy way of managing stress. It has become quite popular today, and with the improved technology, one can easily access these exercises online. Yoga, according to some experts, with frequent practice, helps us to stop associating with thoughts that causes us pain. To read about the benefits of yoga on the mind and body read this article.

 

3.     Walk Away from That Which is Causing Stress

While it is not always that simple to walk away from a stressful situation, there are some instances when walking away is your best choice. For example, if you are in a relationship that has been toxic and there has been no effort on the part of both parties to compromise, walking away may be the best option. Sometimes, we have no other choice but to let go in order to find peace of mind and save your heart from all that extra work.

4.     Look at the Situation From a Fresh Perspective

Eventually, we all have to move on. And, one of the things that help us to do so is when we can see the good in a bad situation. Sometimes, things happen to us not to break us, but to make us stronger for our next step in life. Regardless to how much we would love to avoid bad things from happening, things are going to happen. Take the lesson and move on. The sooner you make the decision to move on the better it is for you and your health.  It does not mean you will completely forget about the incident, it means that you are prepared to live regardless of what happened.

5 Tips to Help You Cope & Find Peace In Difficult Times

5 Tips to Help You Cope & Find Peace in Difficult Times

 

How to Cope and Maintain Inner Peace in Difficult Times

 

Are you in a situation where you find it difficult to cope? Do you constantly encounter challenges that are beyond your control? Are you in a workplace where you are being bullied? Do you work in an environment where you are always on edge for fear of making a mistake? Are you in a relationship where things are always unstable?

Whatever your situation is I want you to know that you are not alone. Many of us go through similar experiences in life. After a while, we realize constant worrying and bickering back and forth does not do well for our emotional and even physical health. If the situation you find yourself in cannot be changed immediately, you need to find a way to find inner peace while all hell seems to be breaking loose around you. The following things are what I use to help me cope with difficult times.

 

Pray and Meditate

For most of my life, I have heard about prayer and meditation. While I took the time to pray, I never combined it with mediation until about a year ago. I was trying to create a more balanced life and wanted to pay more attention to my spiritual needs. Even after accomplishing my goals, I felt this inner emptiness, an emptiness which refused to go away. That is, until I found this beautiful You tube video which instructs us on how to have a relationship with god. Here is the link to the video.

This video changed the way I looked at my spiritual life forever. Meditation has become a daily habit of mine. Since I have begun this daily practice I have managed to maintain an inner calm and cope, regardless of what is happening outside of me. Prior to finding this video, I used some of the following tips I share with you.

Create Space

If it is possible, try to create some space between you and the situation which is causing you distress. If it is a family member who is living with you, you can try taking a nature walk, going to the beach, or spending time with a friend. Depending on the situation, this strategy may be difficult to achieve. For example, if your source of stress is in the work place, there is no way of really creating sufficient space; especially if you work in an open space which requires interaction with others on a frequent basis.

If, however, your source of stress is on social media, you can create space by blocking, un-following, or unfriending the individual (s) whose actions are interfering with your inner peace. If those strategies do not work, deactivating your account may be another option. From time to time I deactivate my account just to focus on other things more important such as spending time with my family or my writing.

Reach Out to Someone Outside of the Situation

One of the things I have found helpful when dealing with a distressful situation is to talk with a trusted friend or relative. While it is not good to discuss every issue with another person, especially if it is relationship problem, there comes a time when the burden gets too much for one to cope without outside help.  Find someone you trust and let them hear you out. Sometimes all we need is a shoulder to cry on, listening ear, and a rational mind to help us gain perspective.

Personally, I try keeping this strategy for more complex situations. There are somethings which we are capable of dealing with without involving others. Usually, we are able to tell when we need to reach out, the urge is often very difficult to ignore. If you are in a situation where another person is trying to convince you that you are crazy or seeing things. you definitely need to reach out in order to help you gain perspective. Situations like these require professional help. Whatever you do, please find someone you trust and unburden yourself so you can find get rid of the torment and find inner peace.

Stay Focused

I know you must be wondering what staying focused has to do with finding inner peace. A few years ago, I was in a situation where I was working in an environment which felt hostile to me. I was studying full-time in an online program, taking care of my then 4 year old and, working full time. Each of these responsibilities had its own share amount of stress. The easiest thing for me to have done at that time was give up one of the responsibility. Although I dreaded going in to work most days, I could not give up my job, because it was my only source of income and I had all of my family obligations.  I could not give up my daughter, so I did not even consider this as an option. I could have given up the online program I was doing. But, had I done so, I would have missed out on a great opportunity to gain the knowledge, experience and great people I met along the way.

Despite all the inner turmoil my situation created, I refused to succumb. Once I decided I was not giving up, I firmly stock to the task and stopped worrying about what I had no control over. After a while, I was so focused on what was important that I able to cope with most of the stress which I experienced at work.

 

Make a Plan of Exit

I cannot stress this enough… Anytime you find yourself in a situation that is continually stressful, and nothing seems to be improving, begin your plan to leave. Two examples of situations that require such a plan is a hostile work environment and a dead end relationship. If it is the former, save as much as you can; some financial experts say save at least six months of your pay in an emergency fund. If possible save more than six months. Take every opportunity to make upgrade your skills and knowledge and make yourself marketable just in case you need to find another job. Start your job search; this is especially critical if you have additional expenses such as tuition loans or a mortgage.

If it is a relationship which is going nowhere, your plan of exit may be different. If it is an abusive relationship, you may need to seek professional help to prevent the situation from escalating.

Whatever the situation, making a plan of to leave shows that you have not given up hope…that you have a future to look forward to; this creates a sense of peace…a feeling that everything will be alright.

In my own situations, I have used all of these strategies at one time or another. I found each strategy helpful depending on the situation I am facing. The key is to not let your problem overwhelm you to the point where stress leads you to physical or mental illness, or cause you to lose hope.

Please take the time to comment and share your stories or suggestions of what we can do to help us cope with stress and create inner peace.