I pen this poem of hope:I will rise Though, life struggles may get me down And the burden and strife May bend me to the ground I will rise, if only but slowly From the pain of life blows Dealt on my mind and my body Life wounds I bear, but only God Knows I will rise, even when my body seems Not to obey what my spirit is saying The self-defeating thoughts that creep In, the tricks my fickle mind is playing I will rise, from the depths of my misery Despite the struggles, I will overcome How I do it amazes even me For, it is not I who is responsible for my victory I will rise, because I refuse to be A victim of circumstances or society I will rise because I, with the strength of the Almighty, have been rescued from what I should not be
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It is Often a Struggle to Focus on Others When You Are in Pain
Our personal struggles can blind us to the suffering of others, especially when we feel that no one cares about us. But today I am here to urge you not to harden your heart, regardless of how many times it gets broken.
Practice Helping Others Through Your Pain
So many times we become hurt, whether it is by broken intimate or social relationships. When this happens, it is easy for us to become angry and withdrawn and thus cause others to suffer. Today, I say to anyone who is hurting because of their experiences with someone else, do not harden your heart.
I can recall working in stressful environments and feeling heartbroken, but you know what? I never let it affect the way I dealt with those I serve. Instead of lashing out on my clients and patients in my frustration, I bestowed more love on them. This not only helped my patients, but also helped me in healing. Through my pain I reached out to others, not to complain about my situation, but to inquire about their situations in an effort to help them.
If you have never tried helping others while you are suffering, it may be a difficult task at first; however, trust me, as you practice helping others through your pain it will become easier and you will begin to see the benefits of doing so. You will begin to heal.
Resist the Temptation to Become Bitter and Angry
It is not easy for us to stay soft and be kind when our hearts have been wounded and scarred so many times. But, if we want to fulfill our purpose on this earth, we cannot afford to walk around with the burden of anger and bitterness. Instead of viewing things negatively, accept your situation for what it is and let go. Learn to live your life without looking back and saying to yourself, “I regret.” If anything, smile at the good times, and take away the lessons learned from the bad times.
Through my heart breaks, one thing I have learned is that the longer I stay angry at the people who hurt me, the longer it takes for me to heal and move on. So, instead of being angry, I reflect on the situation and try to see things from the other person’s perspective. I try to see where I may have contributed to the problem that caused the hurt and I take responsibility for the role I played.
In some situations, such as physical or emotional abuse, it may not be as easy to let go and move on. Some wounds are just not that easy to heal. Some people may need to undergo therapy and counseling before they can let go and move on. But, ultimately, always make it your goal to let go of the anger, hatred, bitterness, and move on.
Seek Inner peace When You Are Hurting
When you are going through a painful situation, you may be tempted to dwell on the painful experiences. It is often very difficult not to replay certain scenes in your mind’s eye. It is as if your mind would not let you forget. This may be especially difficult at first, but as time passes, the pain will ease. At times like these, you need to find the right environment in which to rest and regain your energy. Sometimes, this means getting away from the things that cause you to remember. You might need a change of scenery, different people, different music to listen or whatever makes you feel more at ease.
I have known great pain to the point where I felt as if my heart was literally being ripped from my chest. When I am hurting, I usually listen to music that uplifts me. Music that resonates with my pain but at the same time tells me that there is hope for a better tomorrow. For example, a song by “I Will Rise” by Chris Tomlin. Begins:
“There’s a peace I’ve come to know,
though my heart and flesh may fail
There’s an anchor for my soul
l can say “it is well”
Jesus has overcome and
The grave is overwhelmed
Victory is won
he is risen from the dead”
I find this song very soothing. It helps me acknowledge my weaknesses while giving me the faith, hope, and encouragement that things will be better for me. It reminds me that I am human and it is okay to make mistakes. It also lifts my spirit and makes me sing. Singing eases my pain and allows me to focus on other things besides myself.
There is nothing that can compare to the feeling of inner peace. A feeling that cannot be affected by any external factor. It does not matter what is happening around you, once you have inner peace you will be fine. You will be able to cope, heal, and help others who need you. Whatever you do, keep that heart of yours soft and open to the truth of others. Do not let your pain prevent you from reaching out and helping others.
The beauty about life is that you never know
What’s going to happen next, as you go?
So, learn to take one step at a time
Through the bad and good days, try to smile
Today you may feel as if you are adrift
That nothing you do seems to fit
Wait, don’t give up just yet
Tomorrow’s going to be great, I bet
Each time you feel as if you’ve had a breakthrough
Life’s unpredictability makes you
Realize that tomorrow is not defined
And may never go as you’ve outlined
But, please consider this phenomenon
What fun will there be if we knew what’s going to happen
Wouldn’t you lose interest in the world around you?
If only, if only you and I really knew?
Imagine yesterday you were hopeless
But, today you awoke and realized you’ve been blessed
That dream of yours has suddenly come to being
The clouds had suddenly moved to expose your silver lining
So, embrace each day as it unfolds
For the fact that you do not know what tomorrow holds
Is one of the reasons why we continually
Arise each day to face life in all its unpredictability