Do Not Let Painful Experiences Harden Your Heart


Are you in a painful situation right now? Are you in an environment which causes you much stress? Are you brokenhearted? Are you feeling isolated? . Whatever your situation is, I urge you to read this post and hope that it brings you some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. It does not matter what your situation is, someone out there is worst off and may just need your help. It is important that you take care of yourself so that you can help others. This is a You Tube Video version of this blog. Do not harden your heart because of your painful experiences, instead, use the opportunity to open up yourself to the truth of others. In doing so you might just find the solace you need to revive and let go of the pain and disappointments in your life.

It is Often a Struggle to Focus on Others When You Are in Pain

Our personal struggles can blind us to the suffering of others, especially when we feel that no one cares about us. But today I am here to urge you not to harden your heart, regardless of how many times it gets broken.

Practice Helping Others Through Your Pain

So many times we become hurt, whether it is by broken intimate or social relationships. When this happens, it is easy for us to become angry and withdrawn and thus cause others to suffer. Today, I say to anyone who is hurting because of their experiences with someone else, do not harden your heart.

Do not let the pain harden your heart
I can smile despite the pain

I can recall working in stressful environments and feeling heartbroken, but you know what? I never let it affect the way I dealt with those I serve. Instead of lashing out on my clients and patients in my frustration, I bestowed more love on them. This not only helped my patients, but also helped me in healing. Through my pain I reached out to others, not to complain about my situation, but to inquire about their situations in an effort to help them.

If you have never tried helping others while you are suffering, it may be a difficult task at first; however, trust me, as you practice helping others through your pain it will become easier and you will begin to see the benefits of doing so. You will begin to heal.


Resist the Temptation to Become Bitter and Angry

It is not easy for us to stay soft and be kind when our hearts have been wounded and scarred so many times. But, if we want to fulfill our purpose on this earth, we cannot afford to walk around with the burden of anger and bitterness. Instead of viewing things negatively, accept your situation for what it is and let go. Learn to live your life without looking back and saying to yourself, “I regret.” If anything, smile at the good times, and take away the lessons learned from the bad times.

Through my heart breaks, one thing I have learned is that the longer I stay angry at the people who hurt me, the longer it takes for me to heal and move on. So, instead of being angry, I reflect on the situation and try to see things from the other person’s perspective. I try to see where I may have contributed to the problem that caused the hurt and I take responsibility for the role I played.

In some situations, such as physical or emotional abuse, it may not be as easy to let go and move on. Some wounds are just not that easy to heal. Some people may need to undergo therapy and counseling before they can let go and move on. But, ultimately, always make it your goal to let go of the anger, hatred, bitterness, and move on.


Seek Inner peace When You Are Hurting

When you are going through a painful situation, you may be tempted to dwell on the painful experiences. It is often very difficult not to replay certain scenes in your mind’s eye. It is as if your mind would not let you forget. This may be especially difficult at first, but as time passes, the pain will ease. At times like these, you need to find the right environment in which to rest and regain your energy. Sometimes, this means getting away from the things that cause you to remember. You might need a change of scenery, different people, different music to listen or whatever makes you feel more at ease.

I have known great pain to the point where I felt as if my heart was literally being ripped from my chest. When I am hurting, I usually listen to music that uplifts me. Music that resonates with my pain but at the same time tells me that there is hope for a better tomorrow. For example, a song by “I Will Rise” by Chris Tomlin. Begins:

There’s a peace I’ve come to know,

though my heart and flesh may fail

There’s an anchor for my soul

l can say “it is well”

Jesus has overcome and

 The grave is overwhelmed

Victory is won

 he is risen from the dead”

I find this song very soothing. It helps me acknowledge my weaknesses while giving me the faith, hope, and encouragement that things will be better for me. It reminds me that I am human and it is okay to make mistakes. It also lifts my spirit and makes me sing. Singing eases my pain and allows me to focus on other things besides myself.

There is nothing that can compare to the feeling of inner peace. A feeling that cannot be affected by any external factor. It does not matter what is happening around you, once you have inner peace you will be fine. You will be able to cope, heal, and help others who need you. Whatever you do, keep that heart of yours soft and open to the truth of others. Do not let your pain prevent you from reaching out and helping others.



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