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Three Attitudes to Help and Sustain You Through Life

Three Attitudes to Help and Sustain You Through Life

 

Life is not about what happens to you, but more about your attitude and how you respond to what happens. It is amazing how a shift in your thoughts and perspective can make the difference in your life. Yes, there are times when you will feel overwhelmed and feel as if there is no hope, but what you do during these times and as a rule will help you not just get through but also live a life of peace.

No matter what you are going through here are three positive attitudes to adapt to help you through any difficult situation in life and to sustain you through life.

 

 

  1. A Prayerful Attitude

An attitude of prayer reduces stress and brings a sense of comfort like nothing else I know. Personally, there is nothing like hearing the word of God. The word of God calms my anxiety and gives me a sense of calm in times of stress.

 

Are you experiencing challenges that cause you to feel depressed or hopeless? Have you considered adapting a prayerful attitude? If not you have not been praying, I encourage you to seek God and Pray: make praying to Him a regular part of your life. Every time those anxious feelings come to you, pray. At first, it may feel as if anything is happening; however, after a while you will experience a sense of comfort knowing you are not alone. As He promises in John 14:27 “I am leaving you with a peace of mind and heart. In addition, the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.”

 

The number one thing we need in our life is a peace of mind and one of the permanent ways to gain peace is by seeking God and including Him in your life. After having peace you will then be in a better frame of mind to accomplish what you worry about from day to day. Even when things are going good for you, use prayer to sustain you and keep you on the right path in life.

 

  1. An Attitude of Gratitude

Sometimes, it easier for us to focus on what we lack in our lives. Nevertheless, if we could just shift our attitude for a moment and start looking at what we have our lives will be much easier.

Do you wake every morning complaining or feeling as if there is no point in living? If so, today, I challenge you to shift your focus and start being grateful for what you have while working for what you will like to have in your life. Get up each day and just express gratitude for what is in your life, even when it feels difficult to do so. Awaking in a grateful spirit helps you refocus; even if it is just one thing that is going good in your life be thankful.

The Benefits of Gratitude gives more insight on the power of being grateful.

If you continue to stress about your situation, this will cause you to lose the energy that you should be using to take action. Gratitude causes you to retrain your mind and focus on what you can do to make your life better. Gratitude causes you to focus more on what you have rather than what you do not have. It helps you create a peace of mind and sustains you through the good and the not so good moments in life.

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  1. A Charitable Attitude

If you really want to refocus on your situation then adapt an attitude of being charitable. Being kind to others who are less fortunate makes you realize that your situation is not as bad as you think.  Charity in any form can help you. Look for a way to help someone who is worse than you are.

When you find someone who is going through difficulties and you help that person, it eases your mind and re-energizes you. By taking the attention off yourself, you are able to decrease your stress levels and find your meaning and purpose.

Charity and kindness will bring you a sense of satisfaction to you. Being charitable will lift your spirit and make you feel worthwhile, especially if you were feeling as if you did not matter.

 

These three attitudes work when things are going bad and help to sustain you in the good times. Since these attitudes can be challenging to adapt, try as much as possible to practice them regularly.

Please share your thoughts and let us know what habits help you through your difficulties in life. We’d love to hear from

12 Ways To Live Blissfully At Forty & Beyond


12 Ways To Live Blissfully At Forty & Beyond

Welcome to forty! That is what I intend to tell myself when I get there in another couple of months. Unlike some people who do not want to die, but dread the thought of aging, I am truly looking forward to embracing my forty.
This feeling of anticipation was not always there because when I was much younger I dreaded the thought of aging. In my 20s, I dreaded turning thirty and for a few years into my 30s, I dreaded turning 40 years old.
I think it was the physical and mental signs associated with old age that got me feeling anxious about the prospect of getting old. Almost everyone I know had this fear of aging. Therefore, I guess I inherited it. Then something happened. I realized that we wear our age better when we embrace it rather than denying it. Here are 12 ways that can help you live blissfully past forty.

1. Do Realize That Aging Is A Blessing Not A Curse

I realized that getting older is a blessing and not a curse. After all, if you did not get old it therefore means that you will die young. In addition, who wants to die before completing his or her purpose on earth? I for one was not going to wish aging away, because doing so may take me faster to meet the grim reaper. All the more reason to look forward to forty

2. Do Not Focus On The Aging Process

Instead of thinking about how old you are getting, concentrate on doing things with your life. One who is busy living surely does not have time to watch the appearance of gray hairs and wrinkles. Instead, one focuses on finding and doing things that makes oneself and others happy. Besides, the activity keeps you mentally sharp. Be curious, be adventurous and try doing something you have never done before. Read books, find new hobbies, simply explore! Make forty and beyond amzing!

3. Do Not Focus On Others

Make a decision that you are not going to care about how young other people are, because, your age does n

ot determine how well you live nor how your life is going to be. Life is more about your ability to live, laugh, and embrace whatever comes your way. With your past experiences, being forty opens up a whole new world of opportunities.

 

4. Find Your Purpose

Life is finding that purpose for which you are on the earth and being busy in its fulfillment. Life is also about making that purpose a blessing to others. You also have a responsibility to show your successors that forty is not scary.

“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.” ~ C.S.Lewis

5. Embrace Your Spirituality

The material things in life will make you happy, but only for a while. However, if you embrace the spiritual side of life, this will bring you peace, comfort, joy and blend nicely with the good things around you. I think life is most definitely about embracing our spiritual being and living in a manner that is pleasing to the Almighty God and as such influencing others to emulate your actions.

6. Think About Your Legacy

What legacy would you like to leave behind? How would you like the people that knew you to remember you? At the end of the day, your age would not matter. How you lived your life is what really counts in the end.

7. Be Thankful For Your Life

What are the things you have done so far that you feel thankful? Think about those and if you do not like what you found, start making the necessary changes. It is never too late to start over.
As I near forty, I am thankful for every experience I have had. The good experiences have brought joy to my life and those around me, dear to me. Moreover, the bad experiences have made me much stronger than I have ever thought I would be.

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8. Have A Small Circle Of Friends

There is no aging gracefully without having friends. Imagine how boring it would be if you had no one to have genuine conversations with…How would you feel hanging by yourself all of the time?
I am also thankful for the few friendships and people who have been a part of my life. For those who have stayed and for those who moved on.

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9. Think about You Greatest Achievement

What are your greatest achievements? What are the things you did that makes you feel most pride when you reflect on your life thus far? I have accomplished some material things. My greatest achievement was my ability to be a mother to my children and to help others; it is in these two things that I have found the most joy. The two things that have influenced my desire to be a better person are the love for my children and for people in general. I desire to be a better person and as forty gets closer, I have no problems saying good-bye to 39.

10. Take Care Of Yourself

No matter how much you try, eventually the signs of aging will appear. However, this should not stop you from taking care of yourself. Eat healthy as much as possible, pay attention to your grooming, and get some activity in your daily life. Change your style of dressing to suit your age and personality. Be elegant and graceful!

“Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

11. Prepare For Retirement

If you have not been doing so, you seriously should consider saving for retirement. There is nothing like getting older and having to depend on others for a living. Studies claim that stress contributes to aging and diseases; as you get older, the threat of becoming ill will is even greater without adding money worries to the table.

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12. Stop Thinking About What Others Will Think

As you age, you should get more confident and brave. You should not have to be walking on eggshells trying to please everyone else but yourself. As long as you are living with integrity and not doing anything illegal, you should not have to pretend to be someone else.

Have any suggestions for embracing and living blissfully past forty? If so, please share in the comments section below.

How To Stay Focused During Challenging Times

How To Stay Focused During Challenging Times

 

Staying focused when we are experiencing challenging times is in itself a challenge. But, although staying focused is in itself a challenge, we realize that we must not let our situations get the best of us. Regardless to what is going on us, we have to find a way to cope and stay focused on what we want to achieve in our lives. Whether our goal is a physical, spiritual, financial, or relationship goal, we need to foucs in order to attain it. Today, want to share with you a few things I do to help me stay focused when going through challenging times. Here is an article that can also help you on staying focused. Click here to read.

  1. Concentrate On Finding Solutions and Not on The Problem

By now, we have all proven that worrying never solved our problems. Today I urge you to focus your energy on finding solutions to your problems instead of focusing on the problem itself. If there is any truth in the theory “whatever an individual focuses on grows” then you should focus on positive things rather than negative. Instead of staying focused on what does not work, shift your attention to finding things that work. Even if you do not have an immediate answer, do not despair, keep trying. With persistence comes success.

2. Take One Day At A Time

When we are in challenging situations and we look too far in to the future it causes much anxiety. In your moments of despair, do not torture yourself by looking too far ahead. Instead of wondering how things are going to work for you, concentrate on the moment. Do what you can in the moment. Distract your thoughts by occupying yourself with something meaningful such as reading a book, taking a walk, going to the beach, meditating/praying, listening to something inspirational such as preaching or motivational speaking. Most of all, work on your goals.

I can recall my experiences over these past two and a half years. I struggled emotionally to the point of despair. Sometimes I’d get so anxious just thinking about the future. My future looked bleak. With all the rejection I have had in the past two plus years, I was really feeling hopeless. But, then, I realized that these negative thoughts were not helping me. Instead, I began doing things daily that helped keep me occupied and were relevant to the goals I had set for myself. When I changed my strategy, my entire way of thinking gradually shifted and so did the sense of despair.

Action is the antidote to despair. – Joan Baez

3. Believe In A Higher Power

One of the most popular phrase that people tell us when they are trying to encourage us is to “believe in yourself.” I do agree with this encouragement, but I need to add another line to this, that is “believe in a higher power than you.”

Through my difficult moments, I refused to believe that everything in my life that I had done was in vain. I knew I needed a miracle to turn things around for me. But I also knew that I had to use the talents that God gave me in order to make things happen in my life. I had to believe that God wanted what was best for me. I also believed in His words, He will never leave me nor forsake me. Sometimes, I would talk to God and tell him I needed a miracle. Today, I am witnessing my miracle (s) things are not perfect, but what has been happening in my life is not just a feeling, but also the changes have become physically evident.

4. Continue Persevering Despite Your Circumstances

When you are going through a challenging situation, you can easily feel discouraged; especially if the situation has been going on for a long period of time. After a while, of seemingly beating your head against the wall of problems, you become tired. The temptation then becomes greater, and you feel the urge to give up. But, do not give up. Hang in there!

As humans, we tend to place more hope and faith in the things that are visible to us; however, we have to realize that sometimes there is simply no outward evidence of how well we are doing. In order for us to assess our growth, in the absence of physical evidence, we have to turn inward and reflect on what is happening inside of us. Ask yourself questions such as “How do I feel now compared to when my problems first started? “ Has anything change; for example in the way I think, respond or view my circumstances and life as a whole?” Is what I am doing positively affecting the people around me?”

Your answers to the questions you asked yourself will be the only evidence as to whether you are going in the right direction. If you do not like the answers, it means that you may need to seek a second opinion from someone who is not biased. It also means that you may need to reflect on what you have been doing and change course if necessary.

One thing to know is that when things are working for you and you are not seeing any physical evidence, there will still be a sense of satisfaction within you. Also, if you are on the right path, it is more likely that what you are doing will be helping others around you. Be patient with yourself. Everything takes time, so do not expect that things will change without much hard work.

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5 Tips to Help You Cope & Find Peace In Difficult Times

5 Tips to Help You Cope & Find Peace in Difficult Times

 

How to Cope and Maintain Inner Peace in Difficult Times

 

Are you in a situation where you find it difficult to cope? Do you constantly encounter challenges that are beyond your control? Are you in a workplace where you are being bullied? Do you work in an environment where you are always on edge for fear of making a mistake? Are you in a relationship where things are always unstable?

Whatever your situation is I want you to know that you are not alone. Many of us go through similar experiences in life. After a while, we realize constant worrying and bickering back and forth does not do well for our emotional and even physical health. If the situation you find yourself in cannot be changed immediately, you need to find a way to find inner peace while all hell seems to be breaking loose around you. The following things are what I use to help me cope with difficult times.

 

Pray and Meditate

For most of my life, I have heard about prayer and meditation. While I took the time to pray, I never combined it with mediation until about a year ago. I was trying to create a more balanced life and wanted to pay more attention to my spiritual needs. Even after accomplishing my goals, I felt this inner emptiness, an emptiness which refused to go away. That is, until I found this beautiful You tube video which instructs us on how to have a relationship with god. Here is the link to the video.

This video changed the way I looked at my spiritual life forever. Meditation has become a daily habit of mine. Since I have begun this daily practice I have managed to maintain an inner calm and cope, regardless of what is happening outside of me. Prior to finding this video, I used some of the following tips I share with you.

Create Space

If it is possible, try to create some space between you and the situation which is causing you distress. If it is a family member who is living with you, you can try taking a nature walk, going to the beach, or spending time with a friend. Depending on the situation, this strategy may be difficult to achieve. For example, if your source of stress is in the work place, there is no way of really creating sufficient space; especially if you work in an open space which requires interaction with others on a frequent basis.

If, however, your source of stress is on social media, you can create space by blocking, un-following, or unfriending the individual (s) whose actions are interfering with your inner peace. If those strategies do not work, deactivating your account may be another option. From time to time I deactivate my account just to focus on other things more important such as spending time with my family or my writing.

Reach Out to Someone Outside of the Situation

One of the things I have found helpful when dealing with a distressful situation is to talk with a trusted friend or relative. While it is not good to discuss every issue with another person, especially if it is relationship problem, there comes a time when the burden gets too much for one to cope without outside help.  Find someone you trust and let them hear you out. Sometimes all we need is a shoulder to cry on, listening ear, and a rational mind to help us gain perspective.

Personally, I try keeping this strategy for more complex situations. There are somethings which we are capable of dealing with without involving others. Usually, we are able to tell when we need to reach out, the urge is often very difficult to ignore. If you are in a situation where another person is trying to convince you that you are crazy or seeing things. you definitely need to reach out in order to help you gain perspective. Situations like these require professional help. Whatever you do, please find someone you trust and unburden yourself so you can find get rid of the torment and find inner peace.

Stay Focused

I know you must be wondering what staying focused has to do with finding inner peace. A few years ago, I was in a situation where I was working in an environment which felt hostile to me. I was studying full-time in an online program, taking care of my then 4 year old and, working full time. Each of these responsibilities had its own share amount of stress. The easiest thing for me to have done at that time was give up one of the responsibility. Although I dreaded going in to work most days, I could not give up my job, because it was my only source of income and I had all of my family obligations.  I could not give up my daughter, so I did not even consider this as an option. I could have given up the online program I was doing. But, had I done so, I would have missed out on a great opportunity to gain the knowledge, experience and great people I met along the way.

Despite all the inner turmoil my situation created, I refused to succumb. Once I decided I was not giving up, I firmly stock to the task and stopped worrying about what I had no control over. After a while, I was so focused on what was important that I able to cope with most of the stress which I experienced at work.

 

Make a Plan of Exit

I cannot stress this enough… Anytime you find yourself in a situation that is continually stressful, and nothing seems to be improving, begin your plan to leave. Two examples of situations that require such a plan is a hostile work environment and a dead end relationship. If it is the former, save as much as you can; some financial experts say save at least six months of your pay in an emergency fund. If possible save more than six months. Take every opportunity to make upgrade your skills and knowledge and make yourself marketable just in case you need to find another job. Start your job search; this is especially critical if you have additional expenses such as tuition loans or a mortgage.

If it is a relationship which is going nowhere, your plan of exit may be different. If it is an abusive relationship, you may need to seek professional help to prevent the situation from escalating.

Whatever the situation, making a plan of to leave shows that you have not given up hope…that you have a future to look forward to; this creates a sense of peace…a feeling that everything will be alright.

In my own situations, I have used all of these strategies at one time or another. I found each strategy helpful depending on the situation I am facing. The key is to not let your problem overwhelm you to the point where stress leads you to physical or mental illness, or cause you to lose hope.

Please take the time to comment and share your stories or suggestions of what we can do to help us cope with stress and create inner peace.

 

Six Tips to Help You Survive When Walking Alone

 

 

 

If things are going smooth in your life, I can guarantee you that you will never find yourself walking alone. You’ll have people all around you, to the point where you’d be trapped in to a false sense of security, that you can count on if something goes wrong. Now, imagine, what will happen if one day you find yourself in a difficult situation and the people you once knew are nowhere to be found. This is an affiliate link where you can check out Our Ultimate Reality, a reference for Wealth, Health, Meditation, by clicking this link. Suddenly, you realize that you are alone with your faith in a higher being the only thing to pull you through the dark tunnel that has now become your life. You are down and out, but don’t lose your mind just yet. You are surely going to need your mind to enjoy the blessings that are coming your way.  Are you walking alone? Here are six tips to help you survive when walking alone.

 

  1. Focus on Yourself

Just because everyone else appears to have everything going for them does not mean it is necessarily so.  We do not benefit by wasting our time looking at what others have instead of focusing on how we can improve ourselves. While it is great to emulate the positive actions of those we admire, we should be careful not to take our focus to the point of jealousy and obsession. We must recognize that each of us are unique and blessed with unique gifts and talents.

In order to recognize your purpose, look within yourself and reflect on the things which makes you feel fulfilled and are beneficial to others. How can you use your love for that thing to enhance your own live and the lives of others? What can I do to improve my skills so that my talent can be of benefit to myself and others?

 

  1. Walk by Faith and Trust the Process

As humans we love to be in control, because we fear what is likely to happen if things do not go the way we anticipate. In order to survive when walking alone, one of the things we need to realize is that we cannot control the outcomes of our journey.  Somethings are not within our control. Instead of worrying about how things are going to turn out, we should trust that things will work out for our betterment.

You do not know what is in store for you, whatever you do, try to stay positive. There will be times when you will feel low in energy and off balance; take time to reflect on the good things which came your way after a period of hardship. I can recall the many instances in which life dealt very hard with me, but I never gave up. I kept the faith and kept going with the thought that nothing I have been through would be in vain.

  1. Make Prayer Your Constant Companion

Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among nations, I will be exalted in the earth: Psalm 46:10. Not everyone believes in prayer or reading the Holy Bible, but for those who believe in a higher power you will find that praying and reading the word of God helpful practices. Instead of trying to talk to those who have deserted you in, when walking alone, talk to yourself and to that higher being in which you believe. I believe in God the Almighty. I believe that he hears and answers those who call upon his name, as the good scripture says. So, I talk to Him always, and even more so when I have my problems, I have conversations with Him.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Even if you never prayed, it is never too late to do so. Sometimes you hear others condemning people for only praying when they are in trouble, but do not let the condemnation of others prevent you from seeking God.  Instead, ask the Almighty to give you inner peace so that whatever circumstances you find yourself in does not take control of your mind. Check out Bishop T.D Jakes~ Let it Go.

Personally, I try to occupy a great portion of my day with things which gives me mental energy. For example, I listen to gospel music. Three of my favorite songs are Still, Cornerstone, and I Belong to You. I also listen to preaching: my favorite preaching is that done by Bishop Noel Jones. He preaches on real life issues and how you can overcome them, using a biblical perspective. You can find many sermons by Bishop Noel Jones by just googling his name or typing his name on You Tube. In the mean time you can check out I am Not Built to Break.

  1. Believe in Yourself Even If You Are the Only One 

Believe in your dreams regardless to who is or isn't with you
Believe in your dreams regardless to who is or isn’t with you

Self-esteem and confidence in yourself is crucial when you are going through your struggles, if you want to survive when walking alone. There are many books and articles which can help you figure out how to improve your self-esteem. Whatever you do, do not limit your beliefs to your immediate situation, instead, hold fast to the vision you have for your future. Even if no one believes in you or gives up on you it does not mean you should stop believing in yourself.  Even though you are not getting the encouragement from those you really want to, keep working on your goals. Consider and reflect on questions such as; what is my talent? What do I enjoy doing most? What do I picture myself doing in the future? How can I use my circumstances to improve myself?

Recently, I was at a conference and one of the speakers was Dr. the Honorable Ralph E. Gonsalves, the Prime Minister of St. Vincent and the Grenadines. One of the things which I found motivating about his speech was that he claimed as a young aspiring politician he went into the local communities to have rallies and no one turned up. He claimed that sometimes, people turned off their lights as if they were asleep and sometimes his only audience was an old man and a dog. The moral of story is that even if no one else believes in your dreams, the most important thing is that you believe in them. It does not matter who choose to support or not support you, you will achieve your goals once you keep working on the means by which you can achieve them. Always remember that the only means of succeeding is not quitting. Go with your inner convictions and do not let your current circumstances and the perceptions of others talk you out of your aspirations.

 

  1. Be Brave Despite Your Fears and Do Not Quit

Recognize that because you feel alone does not mean you should give up. The first time I entered Walden University online classroom I had this feeling I was in the wrong place. I knew very little about computers, but here I was taking on something that was so much bigger than I. Here is a link to a helpful article I found, very inspiring read: 7 Ways to Persist When Everything in You Wants to Give Up

My biggest challenge was doing a master’s degree online. I hardly had any knowledge of how to do a word document or an Excel spread sheet.  Instead of becoming discouraged by my fear of the unknown, I reached out to one of the professors and I told him I felt as if I was in the wrong place. The professor quoted my name Ophelia from the Shakespeare act. By giving me this encouragement, professor helped me see that even though I felt fearful, I must go through with my studies and tackle each obstacle as it came along. I worked steadily towards my goal with nothing but the belief that once I put in the effort it will pay off. Through it all, I kept the vision of me attending graduation and receiving my certificate. But most importantly, I prayed constantly. Thanks to the Almighty: the outcome was just as I imagined.

 

  1. Do Not Waste Your Energy on Being Angry and Unforgiving 

When people we love desert us, it is easy for us to feel angry and bitter. We remember all the good things we would have done for them and because of this we feel we are entitled to their loyalty. Even though this is logical thinking, we must realize that because we have been good to others does not mean they will be good to us. Instead of wasting your energy on anger and bitterness, forgive those who have wronged you and move on. Anger is unhealthy when we allow it to consume us. Let it go. Here is The Art of Letting Go of Anger, Toxic People, and Toxic Feelings.

I know, things are easier said than done. But, just like you, I have gone through difficult times in my life and these tips I share with you have helped me through the moments when no one seems to be around to help me. While it is great to have friends, people are not always going to come through for you at the time when you need them to do so. This does not mean that you should give up on you. Instead, seek the help and guidance of the Almighty,  with Him you are not alone. Also, focus on yourself, keep the faith, and trust that things will work out for you. Life is short; do not lose your mind over difficult circumstances. Seek inner peace and be content with where you are while working to improve yourself.

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Crisis: Dealing With Crisis From A Spiritual Perspective

 

A beautiful moment captured by my friend, Ashley
A beautiful moment captured by my friend, Ashley

Crisis! Have you ever been faced with a crisis, which brought up feelings of anger, hatred, or hurt within you? How did you react to the situation? Did you verbally of physically lash out at the people around you? Did you say things that you would not have said otherwise?

Crisis, Unfortunately, happens! I am sure that many of us have been in situations which caused us emotional distress. I am even certain that we have reacted in ways that may have even surprised us.

Recently as I pondered on the issue of how we react when we are faced with problems, I realized, it is not just so much the issue we face that affects us, but how we deal with it. When we are in a situation which causes us to experience strong emotions, some of us do not think rationally. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment we do or say things we will later regret. Our actions may result in harm to ourselves or others and may not always be revocable.

 

Perspectives on Handling Stressful Situations

The good news is that not everyone reacts negatively in a crisis. Some people are quite good at dealing with emotionally intense situations without showing any visible signs of their suffering. I always wondered how they managed to do so. Then, just recently a male friend and I was having a conversation and he told me he was one of those persons who reacted violently when he was in his teens and almost harmed another teenager. After the incident, he had an awakening which caused him to always concentrate on keeping his feelings in check regardless of the situation.

 

But, some of us are not like my friend; we have a hard time controlling our emotions. For example, we may be in a situation where we believe we are being treated unfairly. In our efforts to explain ourselves we end up giving the issue too much significance and before we know it we end up in an argument which we never intended in the first place. One thing I have realized is that sometimes it is better to let your silence speak than to try to explain yourself, especially when the other party has already formed an opinion of the situation. With crisis comes feelings of disappointment. Read my blog on Disappointment: Do Not Take it so Disappointingly.

 

Handling Stressful Situations, A Spiritual Perspective

As I looked at crisis from a spiritual perspective, I realized that there is another way, besides self-control which can help us in our day of crisis. Perla (2008) in his book “Always Joyful: Experiencing God’s Love” urged us not to make rash decision, but to seek God when we are experiencing a painful situation. He reasoned that once we seek God, we will know what we should do and may avoid making mistakes and causing ourselves more pain.

When I first read the advice by Perla, I was a bit skeptical. I doubted whether I will know if God spoke to me. I doubted whether I will be rational enough to take His advice. Nevertheless, I told myself the only way to find out if his advice has merit is to be mindful the next time I am in a crisis and pray to God first before reacting. Since I have read this advice I cannot tell you how many times I have practiced praying first before making a decision. Whether the situation is a crisis or not, I have made it a habit to pray before making any major decisions in my life. I am happy to say that although some decisions do not go according to my expectations, I end up feeling less stressed at the end of it all.

 

Make it A Habit to Seek God

So how can we apply the concept of praying when faced with difficult situations? First, I urge that we make it a habit to always  seek God so that when we are experiencing a crisis we will know where to find him. The thing about forming habit is that once formed they are very difficult to break. Even when we are not in our comfort zone our actions become natural to us.   One of my favorite verses to repeat is Psalms 46: 10 ” Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted  among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. I can recall the first time I saw this verse. I was upset about a personal situation I was facing and during my ranting the paper calendar I had on the wall fell on the counter next to me. It was blown down by the wind.

 

As I looked at it, the words “Be still, and know that I am God” glared at me. For a moment I was taken aback as I considered what it really meant.  After a few moments, the full force of those words sank in and just as the anger came, it left my body. I kept repeating those words, I knew that it was no accident that the calendar fell. These words were meant to give me comfort and help me keep the faith that everything was going to be fine. And they were. Whatever it is you are going through, always remember that God is bigger than all our problems. We need only trust him and allow him to lead us.

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